Author: Regina Reiter

Simple and Affordable Ways to Practice Self-Love

It’s no secret that a lot of people are in serious need of self-love, but for some reason it can feel like what you need to accomplish this is a little out of reach. That can leave many feeling discouraged, but if you knew about some inexpensive ways to take better care of yourself would you be curious? The next few paragraphs will share some simple and affordable ways to practice self-love.

Take Care of Daily Hygiene

When you feel sad, it can be a lot harder to take care of your daily hygiene needs. Sometimes taking some time out to take care of those kinds of needs can be the boost that you need to pull yourself out of a dark place. Having a healthy and soothing bath time can do wonders for basically anyone because of the way that it can help you to deal with stress. Not only that, but when you take better care of yourself, you’ll look a lot better. It’s always easier to look at yourself in the mirror when you know that you’re doing what you need to do to take care of your needs. read more

April 1, 2020

The usual April Fools jokes seem paltry compared to the cosmic joke we are all living today! Rather than fool each other this year, let’s do some serious counting of our blessings, clearing our paths, and visioning a vibrant future with all our loved ones near us!

How are you doing?!!

Where are you working?

Are you alone?

Do you need anything?

How can I help?

It’s important to keep active. Keep moving, even if it’s around the house! Here at Forgivenesswalks, we let our walking take us on a journey into our hearts. read more

February 6,

Look what I’ve created:

Dispassionate sex. Silence. No sharing.

I wrote A marvelous fantasy. Taking responsibility for choosing what I have. The thought came, “what if I end this season april 15th?” There was an Invitation to Wildwood Magic Retreat. (There will be singing.) On may 7th.

How is it serving me to create a partner who is traumatized by my talking about my limiting beliefs? A partner who penetrates me while I am limp and unresponsive? With whom I meticulously avoid conversation and with whom I constantly  wonder “how can I go from here to my fantasy?” I will not speculate. I will have my fantasy and strive to become it myself so my partner, whoever that is, can mirror it back! read more

February 5, 2020

Reading Expanding into Love invites me to describe my ideal relationship. I am timid to say what I want, lest I act selfishly and arrogantly. With openness to receiving companionship even better than I “want” I now describe my yearning.

I am blessed with a partner and  with companions who share my propensity to use the tools of Radical Living: Satori, 13 Steps, Worksheets, Walks for a Singing Heart. My loves even bring other modalities that resonate with raising our vibration. We sing. We seek and find classical and modern music. We make music. We support each other with Touch for Health, B.E.S.T., and Contact Reflex Analysis, yoga, chanting, Cranial-Sacral balancing, even natural balancing modalities I don’t know yet. Massage happens. Together, we support each other’s physical, emotional, and spiritual balancing and invigorating. read more

February 4, 2020

“It’s fine to explore relationship, but my brain can’t process all the questions. I feel bombarded with the questions I don’t have answers for.”

That’s his response to my courageous sharing that I know that my limiting beliefs about relating get in my way. My belief, my experience, is that when I share, or request, what I want or show how I am, then the relationship cracks. My recollection of that happening in all six of my previous love relationships is vivid. I wonder how to do it differently. read more

January 20, 2020

I need an app for instant posting to this blog. The WP app blocks me.

Anyway, I’ve heard from Roxanne about difficulty climbing. What an awesome mussionnitbwould be to transform her relationship with climbing, as I did with Mary!

Breathing. Stepping. Discovering a the pace that works for her body and soul together, so that walking up mountains is an eagerly awaited transformational event!

I believe that is an accessible practice by blending my Meet the Mountains technique with mindful sensory observation, nonsenory awareness, and the 13 Steps to Radical Forgiveness. read more

Cheryl hiked the entire AT over four years. Marked by interruptions from hurting knees and caring for her aging father, she had many opportunities to transform her fears, her discomforts, her concerns as she held fast to her dream of walking the Appalachian Trail. I met Cheryl as she prepared for her (third) year. She knew that she needed a change in perspective going back out to complete the White Mountains of New Hampshire. She remembers her feeling of pain and disappointment mixed in with the urgency of finding her way off the trail. Something she said in the women’s group motivated me to reach out to her and she responded. We talked! I could help her stay focused, have tools to transform her disappointment, stay true to her dream while also being available to care for her aged and ailing father. Her dad urged her to hike. It was her knees that drove her off. That year, she used yoga and nutrition to heal and strengthen her body. She returned to the trail. Again, the challenges of pain and responsibility cut her walk short. In Palmerton, PA she posted in the women’s group about her anxiety summiting the steep, rugged climb out of Lehigh Gap, a notorious obstacle for many AT hikers. I wrote, “You get to choose each step’s difficulty one at a time. What if you choose each step to be easy?” She now remembers that climb being easy and surprisingly quick. “I heard your voice, Regina, saying “make each step mindful. And I did that! That was my method of continuing that year. And I made it to Katahdin!” read more

October 23, 2019

I wrote this in response to a post by Kelly Joy Simmons as she explored and explained her identity.

Thanks for inviting me to look at my own relationship with identity. Mine has been a sort of opposite from yours, Kelly. 40 years ago, I quit my budding career enticing people to connect with Nature at an outdoor education center to be married. My husband “had a better job” I told everyone, “so we’ll live where he works.” For 35 years I was constantly creating my identity while I lavished my three sons with my presence in their lives. I loved being their mom, and learned to take a stand for my value as a mom, a house remodeler, teacher, budget keeper, and even a Nature interpreter sometimes! I had plenty of opportunities to claim my identity, my value, when responding to the usual reactions to my “Mom at home” introduction of “Oh, so you’re not working!” read more

October 23, 2019

I recently finished a long walk of the Oregon Coast Trail. If you haven’t yet, you can read my journal of that walk here: Regina’s Oregon Coast Trail Journal

Well, I used to feel let down when I got back home from one of my walks. I perceived separation between my trail world and my home world. That all changed when I got a job as a ridgerunner on the Appalachian Trail. My workplace was the Trail! One day, I stood at the base of Bluff Mountain, looked around at the rare spruce trees and reflected on the conversation I had just had with a hiker and realized, “I’m living my dream. I’m earning my living hiking!”  As the ridgerunning season passed and I went back to my house in Atlanta, I had a new view and a whole list of hikers I had met. They had shared their stories, their joys, their disappointments, their impressions of the Trail and what they thought about their hike. Mostly, I had listened to how they felt about their hikes. Some loved their walk! Others were disappointed with the difficulties they were having. I knew I could contribute to each of them! From this vantage point, the Trail world and the Home world seemed closer together! They depended on each other! Hikers needed people at home to support them. Hikers needed preparation at home After their hike they needed to go back and create something just as fulfilling as their hike; they needed to heal their disappointment if they quit; they needed to reconcile relationships with others. read more