August 6, 2025
I have a S.T.O.R.Y. (A Sustained Tale of Repressed Yearning)
Hmm. I suppose the anniversary of Hiroshima Day is appropriate for posing this question. Can “using the tools” of Radical Forgiveness shift the apparent stalemate in a situation where someone is blaming me for something I said?
Two years ago, I muttered a judgemental comment within earshot of another person, triggering her desire to “not hang out with people who say mean things about me”.
Yesterday, she reminded me of that event, saying that the way to resolve this is for me to make amends and change my behavior. What’s my part in this situation? Can I raise the vibration for both of us by using the tools myself??
I’m willing to give it a try! I’ll report back!
Here’s the irony. My offending comment had been, “She could change this situation in five minutes!” believing that shifting focus using the RF tools could quickly change her perspective.
Now is my chance to prove it, right??
Update an hour later:
I am true to my word, anyway!
I did a Radical Forgiveness Worksheet, filling it out by hand to engage my physical body in the process. I was touched by what came up, particularly loving myself having the feelings of anger, frustration, and hopelessness in the situation – getting triggered by someone else’s apparent entrenchment in THEIR story.
Well, I can now see that – on a soul level – I am open to the idea that I signed up to be in this play with THEM in the story that people say mean things about THEM. In the play, MY character is one who could be trusted – for a while anyway. Then even “Regina betrayed my trust!”
I am now open to tearing up my soul contract to be this actor in the play. What if I stop playing that role? No more mean comments, even accidental ones. No more reacting with self-hatred and discounting when THEY start in on their “People say mean things about me so I’m not going to spend time with them” story. What if I could think, “Oh, here’s that story again and I’m not in that play anymore and can feel at peace listening to that story and validating it.” (I’ll have to rehearse this NEW STORY. I can see that I buy into the OLD STORY!)
OK. That’s my report for now! Wish me luck surrendering to Spirit to shift the energy in this field for the highest good of all concerned.
For more on the techniques I’m using to change my Old Stories to New Stories