One of my favorite tools for transforming my relationships, The Thirteeen Steps to Radical Forgiveness
, supported me in freeing myself – and my mom – from a steadfast belief in her disapproval of me. I have no recollection of where that belief arose in my past, but I know I don’t have it any more! In fact, I don’t even remember what it was!
I used this simple audio tool once back in Virginia while climbing Bald Knob on the Appalachian Trail. I had ascended this 2,000 ft climb many times and decided to walk through the 13-Steps as I climbed it this time. To support my physical challenge, I used the balanced breathing and stepping in Meet the Mountains Technique
. The 13-Steps guided my soul challenge. As I stepped rhythmically up the mountain, I listened to the recording, saying “yes” at each part. Step 12 invites me to “notice when the thoughts you had at the beginning, the ones attached to the feelings, have lost their charge. Maybe you can’t even remember what they were.”
To my surprise, that had happened! I couldn’t remember what that nagging belief I was laying on my mother was! I know it was some version of “you don’t respect me for who I am” but at that moment – and ever since that moment, I can’t remember what I was blaming my mother for! I laughed. The process had worked! I was free to create some other belief about my mom. So, why not pick something that let me accept her – and myself?
Perhaps you’ve already used The Thirteen Steps to Radical Forgiveness. If not, take a listen and see if it helps you get a new perspective on something that bothers you. Get the recording here:
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This time of tumult is a great time to experience using this tool for reminding us to be open to new perspectives and getting our past beliefs out of the way!
Let’s walk together!