Magic Itinerary Man

May 10, 2016

“If we can take a walk and then  be in a wifi phone spot at nine, that would be great.” I have a magic itinerary man. One of the troubles turned blessing that I’m receiving by allowing Forgivenesswalks to become real is to accept my partner’s passion for exploring. What if, instead of selling out on my business because I don’t have time to do the work, and it’s not something we do together, how about if I let him choose, design, mastermind our itinerary to support me creating connections with my mentors, clients, community?

The transformation in that for me is accepting it! Making the requests, honoring us both. This morning, that worked – as I squirmed and resisted to it and he made my request even bigger  by deciding that I had said that my goal for the walk was to make a video! (What I HAD said is that  I could record my thoughts as we walked, as a way of taking notes).

But, we did it! We explored a beautiful canyon and got back home at 8:45. I got right to work on my computer composing a salespage to work on at 10 a.m. with my mentor.

I AM the possibility of being joyously prosperous!!

Here’s my program offering in progress:
ReginasHeartSingingWalk Community

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Money Matters

What will it take to know myself as someone who confidently requests and receives money in exchange for my coaching? Today, I acknowledge my belief that I’m acting as if these statements are true: “It’s not ok to request payment for hiking consultation because others do it free.” AND “It’s silly to think that hiking coaching could be my real job! Ridgerunning is a real job, nature interpreting is a real job, but coaching while hiking can’t be a real job.”

Time for a little reframing and turnaround statements! First, for Nonsenses Immersion. Be back later!
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Here it is! What occurred to me in today’s experience is “starting with blank space, I engaged in applying the colors in a systematic way and now there’s a beautiful painting. I didn’t visualize it ahead of time or plan it out, except to work in a circle this time instead of horizontal patches. What if doing business is like that too? Taking the steps of presenting content with inherent value, just like the colors, and present them in a systematic way, allowing their natural value to entice others to invest their own energy to participate in the activity themselves.

What do you think? Is this valuable to you? Do you have valuable content that you’re reluctant to offer? Do you have experience in making this shift in your own business?

I want to hear from you!
Please comment.
Or send me an email at regina@forgivenesswalks.com

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Plans

Do you make plans, then have backup plans, or fallback plans, none of which seem like what you REALLY want to be doing? The source of the plans are from a list of thinhs I already know are possible because they are already being done, either by me or someone else. I lived like that for decades. I was really good at accommodating, always making the best of my life, willing myself to be content with the life I knew was possible. I believed that what I really wanted, the intimate partnership I desired, the lifestyle and purpose I saw others living that enticed me, were unavailable to me. I resigned myself to accepting what I had, acknowledging that it was the best that I COULD have.

Walking from Maine to Georgia on the Appalachian Trail opened up a door to a new perspective. I experienced myself feeling fulfilled, being with someone who shared my passion, seeing myself physically and emotionally purposeful. Why not continue living that way?

I’ve been doing my best living i to that since then.

Clarifying what makes my heart sing and doing THAT, even in small ways has helped me choose from among various plans. In addition, surprising opportunities, even better than any of the plans I had, have appeared. I’m learning to go with the heartsinging.

Saving Mr Banks – and Me Too

I watched the video of Mary Poppins, followed by Saving Mr Banks which reveals the story of P.L. Travers’ journey to signing over the rights to her creation. It was a Radical Forgiveness journey. How? The author had a S.T.O.R.Y., a Sustained Tale of Repressed Yearning. Mary Poppins had been Mrs. Travers’ characterization of her childhood experience with her dad, Mary Poppins playing the role of magical rescuer and someone who set things right.

What I realized from Saving Mr Banks was that what it took  to share Mary Poppins with the world through the eyes of Walt Disney was “finishing the story”. Allowing her dad to rise out of his prison, to find his joy AND be prosperous, let her share Mary Poppins with the world. Letting there be a New Story, set Mary Poppins free.

I see something of MYSELF in her story. I’ve been reluctant to share my Appalachian Trail story, an important plank in a hiking coach’s platform, wouldn’t you think? Well, just like P.L. Travers, I have been reluctant to turn over my trail persona to the world. To do that would mean revealing a part of the story that still feels shameful to me. Letting the main character, myself, be on stage as a woman who accomplished her great feat of hiking the Appalachian Trail while cheating on her husband, is hard for me to tell.

Although I have since divorced, there’s still a lingering shame – that scarlet letter “A” – that I want to hide. So, freely sharing the truly human story of that lonely woman who embarked solo and attracted a partner on the trail, discovering what heartsinging partnership could be, mirrors P.L. Travers opening to accepting her dad as the man he was, and freeing her own heart.

I’m open to that! Let’s see if I can DO it!!

I’ll start with today’s Nonsenses Immersion. Here goes!!

Nonsense4.26.16Simple wholeness and balance filled me during this immersion. The message I got in this immersion is, “All experiences are part of the wholeness. You did what you did, and that wove your story. As human beings, we choose all sorts of paths, actions, ways of being. Guess what, Regina? You are not the first nor the last woman to discover and express her heart, her need, her self through sexual activity. The guilt, shame, self-loathing you attach to that comes not from TRUTH, but from patriarchal bigotry that puts women in emotional slavery. To be willing to tell your story, claiming it as your human story, could be healing for just the women who can be set free by it.”

Well, today, I can hear that intellectually. And I’m willing to put this out in my blog. I am open that my soul is adjusting its balance with a New Story. How about this one: The more I show up as me, with the story that I’ve played, the more my true purpose is fulfilled and those I’m here to serve find me. I am lovable just the way I am! Mr Banks is saved – and so am I!!

Regina
April 26, 2016

Does this story resonate with you? Do you have a story, a dream, an expression, a yearning that you are afraid to fulfill because of an untold part of your past? Is something blocking you from your goal? Perhaps you don’t even know what it is, just that somehow you can’t seem to take the steps toward something you really want to do? I can help! I recognize it and have steps to take. The first one is to be open to loving yourself in YOUR story, just as you are.

Let’s chat about it and get the conversation started. Get on my calendar for a 20-minute Next Steps Chat and start your journey to freedom, more energy, a new sense of self……………………

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A Hiker’s “Why”

I read this hiker’s blog today. She seems to be discounting her purpose, saying she doesn’t know why she’s hiking, and that’s OK.

http://leftbase.com/?p=1568

To me, it’s a missed opportunity to avoid or discount anwering this important, formative question for a fulfilling walk.

Knowing – or inventing- a purpose for embarking on a journey can help a hiker make important choices about all five essential areas of planning as well as provide quick clarity when challenges arise during a hike.

Better to alter one’s stated purpose during a walk than to skip the enrichment of choosing one on which to build from the beginning.

When I decided to commit to planning my 2007 Appalachian Trail thruhike, two focusing statements arose: I wanted to finish the trail and I wanted to do something that really mattered to me, even though my husband didn’t want to do it with me.
Together, those purposes kept me on the planning path and on the trail once I began.

Deepening these motivations through the walk nourished an inner courage that fueled significant revision of my self confidence and my worldview. When I fulfilled my mission, I knew myself as a heartsinging walker, as a hiking partner, and as a wife who was willing to take a stand for herself in her marriage.

I didn’t know at the beginning that my hike would give me this expanded clarity. That experience grew from my foundational, if simple, purpose to finish the trail and honor my personal dream.

What purpose are you willing to claim for your walk?

Heartsinging Pace

I’ve weighed in on a thread started by a mom concerned that her daughter is discouraged on her Appalachian Trail hike. I found out that she’s walked over 200 miles in her first two weeks on the trail, starting in early March on Springer Mountain, Georgia. Here’s my response:
If that’s her heartsinging pace, then bravo. As a ridgerunner, listening to hundreds of hikers, I discovered that the happy, fulfilled hikers were those who found a personal pace that came from within, matching their own body’s comfort with their walk’s purpose. The unhappy, worn out ones were pushing themselves to “make miles” according to some formula they had heard from outside. The hike became something they felt forced  to do, and many had something else they’d rather be doing. I believe there’s an inner purpose and pace that evokes a fulfilling, energizing, heartsinging walk! May hers be so! #singingheartwalk

Let’s Meet at the Next Trailhead

The journey that I’m on now has a name – Journey to the HeartLand – for its significance in my life. I thought that this one would be different than other trail walks I have done. Wouldn’t an off-trail journey be different than a month on the Benton MacKaye Trail or on the Appalachian Trail?

What I’m discovering is that this journey has the same essentials for success as a walk on a physical trail.

  • Know the trail – I’ve got the road map for our class topics
  • Consider the timing – Well, 7 a.m. might be a little early for some participants!
  • Love my gear – I’ve had technology challenges that I’m stepping through one at a time.
  • Have support – Thanks to my friends who are sharing their home, my partner, my sister, and the participants themselves for their understanding and flexibility while we get our journey underway.
  • Have tools for shifting emotional energy – Well, that’s what this journey is all about! What I’m teaching in this course are the exact tools I’m using to navigate the journey myself! Perfect!

During our first week, we’ve been looking at our “Stories”. Stories are those emotion-laden, repeating patterns that seem to happen over and over again in our lives. They usually have a consistent disempowering “story line”. In addition, our biggest Stories are ones we have been playing out unconsciously – until now! Now, we’re awake to their insidious repetition and we’re tired of their presence. We want to get rid of them, but don’t know how!!!
That’s what Journey to YOUR HeartLand is all about! We’re taking a loving and safe look at these stories and walking step-by-step into a New Story of vibrance, creativity, and fulfillment.

Here’s what journeyers are saying:

“Please find attached a brief summary of my story. Thank you for what you do!”

“Hello and thank you for responding to “my story”. I have rewritten it and feel a lot better. Thank you for the suggestions you made and I believe this journey is for me!”

“You make me smile! I just love you and don’t even know you!”

We’re only missing YOU!  You can jump in now and get the same results. It’s just like a walk on the Appalachian Trail. You can start anywhere on the path and be filled up with the wonders of that iconic trail!  “Hike your own hike” is a perfect saying for a journey to your heart as well as a trail walk.

Get the details here:

Journey to YOUR HeartLand: STORIES

What’s calling me to this journey is the chance for sharing my heart so much with you that all the self love, the claiming of my passion, the letting go of unnecessary things, relationships, and ways of being that it has taken to invent my life of adventure rubs off on you. It’s easy to go on walks myself or with my beloved hiking partner!
But, what I really want to do is entice you to look at your own limiting stories and love yourself in those stories enough to choose whether you want them or not. I want to be with you when you bravely touch into the buried feelings and let the tears flow to wash away that stuck energy. I want to walk with you as you step through the gateway of willingness to see that this might be happening for a higher purpose.

Why?

So you can feel the lightness, the joy, the inner glow, the rush of magic and miracles all around you that come from telling your story, feeling the feelings, switching off the energy flow to those old stories, noticing a new story, and integrating that into your body.

Why is that important?

Because then you can claim your own vibrant dream, your own fulfilling relationship, your own passionate purpose. And that’s what I really want for you!  And I believe I can guide you on that journey!
Here are the details of the journey:

Journey to YOUR HeartLand: STORIES

Not sure this is for you?

Do you recognize any of these stories in your life?

I don’t want to rehash the past or go deep into my feelings, just enjoy myself.
I’m overweight and not attractive.
Intimacy is hard for me.
I don’t like myself when I’m mean and angry. I shouldn’t be that way!
I feel lost in my life and nothing seems to be working.
My family doesn’t love me.
I yearn for more, yet force the taste out of my mouth in resignation and fear.
I feel uncomfortable in my own skin and don’t know how to cultivate true love for me.
I am surviving, but I want to thrive, yet I’m at a standstill, living half-heartedly.
I’ve birthed a baby and that was a most magical thing. Now, if I could only birth my own life!
I’m convincing myself to stay in a desolate relationship because I don’t know any other way and I surely don’t want to be alone!
At this stage of my life I just don’t want to change things!

In Journey to YOUR HeartLand: STORIES

We’ll take a look,
with ease and grace and lots of compassion
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at how those stories play out in your life. Not to say they’re wrong or you’re wrong, or you’ve screwed up to have them.
No! We’ll look at them to acknowledge that we all have a story that gives us the chance to feel separate from our fulfillment, just because that’s what we humans do!
Then using some really simple tools that are actually fun to use, we’ll play around with New Stories that we might actually like better and try them out and see what happens!
Chances are, you’ll feel lighter and happier and more creative with your New Stories, which is why I love

Journey to YOUR HeartLand

In joy,
Regina

Here’s to you and YOUR Journey!
Drop me a line and tell me about it today!

I Want to Walk the Appalachian Trail. Now What?

This week, two fabulous, successful people in my life said, “I want to walk the Appalachian Trail.”
Into my head flash the radiant feelings of thanksgiving and amazing accomplishment that I felt when I stood on Springer Mountain to complete my own 2,000 mile walk six years ago. Along with it wash in the memories of the challenges and doubts that clouded that vision as it unfolded. All of it – the joys, the challenges, the ups, and downs, the sunny days and the rainy or snowy days were all part of my Appalachian Trail walk. I assume they would be part of anyone’s walk. So, where does one start after proclaiming, “I want to walk the Appalachian Trail?”

As I look back on my own walks, I realized that there are five, maybe six, essential areas to prepare for a successful hike.

1. Know your trail
Read. Get one of the popular guidebooks about the AT. Explore among the many books and journals. Talk with other AT hikers.
Here’s a start:
http://www.trailjournals.com/mssnglnk

2. Consider your timing
How long do you want to be on your journey? Are you determined to walk the entire 2,181 miles in one trip? Are you happy with walking the trail in sections? How much time can you dedicate for your walk? That will help you determine how to create the journey within your life. A “Thru-hike”, when one walks the entire trail in one walk, takes 4-7 months for most hikers.

3.Love your Gear
What you carry – or if  you carry your gear – is an exploration that will pay off with ease and enjoyment every step of the way.  Take your time, and don’t be afraid to try out several versions of each piece of gear. Get out on the trail and meet hikers to see all your choices.  They are endless!  At some point, you’ll settle on what’s right for you. Try borrowing or renting your first gear to get the feel of it. But, where to start? Here’s my list of gear for a summer pack:

http://forgivenesswalks.com/reginas-gear-lists-summer-backpack-contents/

4. Have Support
Only around 11,000  people have completed the entire Appalachian Trail. Most people think it’s a dangerous, arduous, almost impossible feat! You will probably meet more naysayers than supporters for your hatchling idea. Talk with people who have done it!  They’ll cheer you on and lure you into the fold. These people know in their bones that it’s one of the most satisfying things they’ve ever done!

Read Trail Journals at http://www.trailjournals.com

Or, join a class, a virtual campfire to prepare. My friend, Carla Robertson has a unique and supportive class. Check it out here:

http://livingwildandprecious.com/wild-and-white-blazing-a-course-for-women-planning-an-at-thru-hike/

 

5. Be prepared for the UPs and DOWNS emotionally. The mental journey!

There are many “energy-shifting” practices to use when the going gets tough, you doubt yourself and your journey, it rains for five days straight, or snow covers the trail in April. My favorite, because it invites me to do something with those feelings, is Radical Forgiveness. With the tools of Radical Forgiveness, you can methodically, quickly, and easily, with no special skills or discipline, turn those troubles into blessings.

Pick up the book, Radical Forgiveness or call Regina Reiter, Radical Forgiveness Coach, for a free conversation about this easy practice.

BONUS STEP
Walking the Appalachian Trail obviously involves a lot of walking. Perhaps, one of the best ways to get ready for your own walk is to walk!  Start walking wherever you go, whenever you can. It’s as simple as that. An Appalachian Trail walk is a long string of day walks built into a long string of 5-day backpack trips. Start with day walks right where you are!

Walking the Appalachian Trail is a big dream. Most people who strike out on this journey don’t fulfill this dream. Follow these essential steps and fulfill your dream.

 

 

 

Cloistered Nomad

I sold my house yesterday.

My nomadic lifestyle has now begun in earnest.

I have the urge to enclose myself, to delve deep inside to discover my new self.
One safe and at home wherever I am in the World.

For tonight, though, I am grateful for the luscious bed at my friend’s B&B near the Appalachian Trail. I lean into the familiar lifestyle of a carefully furnished and decorated home. (Not like my own home ever was!)

Tomorrow, or maybe the next day
My roaming can begin.

Tonight
Homelife grounds me, assuring me that someone is home.

Dutch Haus, Montebello, VA

Regina’s Gear Lists: Summer Backpack Content

Regina’s Gear Lists
Backpack Contents for Summer

Trash compacter bag lining the pack
Pro-lite 3 Thermarest. ¾ length
Sleeping bag: Western Mountaineering 30 degree down bag
Extra clothing: fleece cap, long sleeve midweight thermal shirt, 1 pair smart wool socks, wind shirt,
Shelter: Custom homemade silnylon tarp with net tent liner (from Ray Way kit)
Backpacker’s Poncho for groundcloth and raingear
Cookset: 1qt stainless pot with lid, Pepsi can stove, 8 oz. denatured alcohol, foil windscreen, pot lifter
Food: 1-1.5 lbs per day
Wash bowl: Small zip-loc lidded bowl, small sponge, 1 oz. bottle of Dr. Bronner’s soap
Plastic trowel
Trekking poles
Water bottles: 3 liter capacity
Map, guidebook
Comfort Couch: 12”x14” piece of ensolite pad
Umbrella
Sunhat
First Aid Kit
1 oz. bottle hand lotion, 1 oz.Tecnu
2-3 plastic grocery bags for trash or bagging wet stuff